Remembering Tammy Faye

The sophisticated (or merely pretentious) among us loved to mercilessly mock Tammy Faye Messner (formerly Baker), who died this weekend after a long battle with cancer. But as the Washington Post obit notes, she grew up in a house with no indoor plumbing and where makeup was considered a sin-and in a life marked by scandal and renewal, ended up something of a gay icon and a speaker at gay pride rallies.

And it wasn't only drag queens that seemed to take her to heart.

Scoff all you want, but it's Tammy Faye's audience that we need to reach out to and convince if we are to secure gay equality outside the bluest precincts. And she, in her waning years, tried to help do just that.

Who Is the Bigot?

Think what you will about Scientology (and I don't think about it too much), it hasn't by any stretch been in the forefront of the religious right's political anti-gay campaign. So what to make of the call to boycott Hollywood's latest version of "Hairspray" because it stars John Travolta, a prominent Scientologist? What's next, calls to boycott movies with devout Southern Baptists, Mormons or Catholics (which, if you buy the "logic" of this campaign, would actually make more sense)? In fact, the whole thing smacks of a cheap stunt, or at least narrow-mindedness-which, ironically, is what "Hairspray" is dissing.

Travolta, for his part, vehemently denies he (or Scientology) is anti-gay. And John Walters, gay-camp auteur of the original film, is backing him up.

A more legitimate critique of the newest "Hairspray," made by some critics, is that the original 1988 indie film starring the late, famed transvestite "Divine," and the subsequent Broadway incarnation starring Harvey Fierstein (who also cut his performance teeth as a cross-dresser) were in-your-face transgressive. You never doubted that Divine or Fierstein were drag queens playing big mama Edna Turnblad, which expanded the theme of prejudice against those outside the mainstream. Whereas Travolta, the AP's Christy Lemire writes, plays Edna as a woman, not as a drag queen pretending to be a women. "He plays it straight, for lack of a better word, and with a touch of pathos. The joke is completely lost," she laments.

That may or may not be a legitimate critique, but if gay activists and activist-editors feel that way, their beef is with the film's openly gay producers, Craig Zadan and Neil Meron, and not with Travolta-or Scientology.

Health Care, Part 1: A “Sicko” System?

Michael Moore's documentary, "Sicko", has started a new round of thinking about reforming America's healthcare system. For gay Americans, especially gay men, the stakes in this debate are unusually high and the answers are not obvious.

"Sicko" has two basic messages. The first is that America's system of privately run healthcare is broken, leaving millions without insurance and many of the rest frustrated by inadequate and expensive coverage. The result is a country that, according to the World Health Organization (WHO), ranks 37th in healthcare.

The second message of "Sicko" is that other countries - like Canada, Britain, and France - do a much better job of giving all citizens quality healthcare through government-run programs.

Along the way, Moore tells us horror stories about Americans whose insurance companies would not cover some life-saving treatment they need, about elderly and sick people dumped by the side of the road, and about 9/11 rescue workers who have to go to Cuba to get medical care.

These anecdotes are compared to happy tales from countries like France, where doctors make house-calls (!) free of charge, new mothers are given a state-paid assistant to do the laundry, and life expectancy soars.

All of it is punctuated by Moore's trademark humor, sarcastic and sardonic, which alone makes the film worth seeing. He is the funniest propagandist in the country.

Funny, but not terribly effective. A really good propagandist would give one the sense that the other side has been given a hearing, been considered, and been found wanting. With Moore, you get beaten over the head by clear good and evil. While Moore just wants cancer patients to get the treatment they need, the other side is all rapacious plutocrats putting profits ahead of lives.

If you're thinking at all during a Moore documentary, you're constantly wondering, what is he not telling me? I'm no healthcare expert, but I know enough to be wary of the direction Moore suggests.

His comparison of the U.S. to other countries is misleading, to say the least. The WHO report that ranks the U.S. just above Cuba looks at five factors: overall population health, including life expectancy; responsiveness of the system to patient needs; "inequality" of health within the population; "distribution" of responsiveness within the population (how people of varying economic status are served); and the "fairness" of the system's financial burden (who pays).

The first two factors can be measured objectively, and on these the U.S. does very well. Americans live longer on average than almost all other people. We're just a half year behind the British and 1.5 years behind the French in life expectancy. It's hard to say how much of even this modest gap is attributable to the countries' healthcare systems, as opposed to diet and exercise habits.

The U.S. ranks first - first - according to the WHO in healthcare responsiveness. Responsiveness means things like "respect for the dignity, confidentiality and autonomy of individuals and families to decide about their own health," and "prompt attention, access to social support networks during care, quality of basic amenities and choice of provider." Even with all the problems in their healthcare system, Americans report higher levels of patient satisfaction than citizens of any other country.

Of course, the U.S. loses out on the remaining three egalitarian and more subjective factors weighed by the WHO's international staff. Nations with government-run healthcare systems like France - and oil-rich Oman and socialist Cuba - do much better providing everyone healthcare and spreading the costs to those who can afford it. That's why the overall U.S. score is comparatively low.

It's a point Moore stresses. Everybody in those countries gets "free" healthcare, regardless of ability to pay, while some 47 million Americans have no health insurance and many receive needed care only when they go to the emergency room.

But this indictment by itself suggests no obvious reform. There is no such thing as free healthcare. Consider the example of Moore's favorite country.

France, which ranks first in healthcare according to the WHO, pays for its generous system with very high tax rates that absorb large portions of household income. That limits the freedom to spend on other things - like education or housing or travel - that some people value more highly.

High taxes and heavy regulation of business and labor markets, requiring extended paid leave for things like convalescence, produce anemic growth rates and chronically high unemployment. France is now having one of its periodic existential crises about falling behind more market-oriented countries.

The WHO report does not even consider a country's contribution to advanced medical education, new technology, innovative treatments, and drug research - all areas in which the U.S. unquestionably leads the world. The 36 countries ranked ahead of the U.S. enjoy such good health in part because of American creativity and profit-seeking American companies.

The tradeoff - more evenly distributed healthcare in exchange for some sacrifice of individual liberty and economic dynamism - might be worth it. But we at least must recognize the tradeoff exists.

Given the heavy need for healthcare among those with HIV infection, an expensive, chronic and potentially fatal illness, a question for gay readers is this: are there any special reasons to be concerned about reform? And given that the gay experience with government has not been happy, should we worry about state-run healthcare? That's the subject of the next column.

A Tale of Two Scandals

I suppose it should come as no surprise that, despite the abolition of sodomy laws, lives are still being destroyed by arrests for soliciting gay sex, as in this sad story about Florida State Rep. Bob Allen. The seven-year legislator is (was?) a Florida co-chairman of U.S. Sen. John McCain's presidential campaign.

A big difference between incidents like Allen's and, say, the exposure that Sen. David Vitter (R-La.) used an escort/prostitution service, is the fact that Vitter wasn't arrested and no one is even remotely considering charging him for soliciting heterosexual sex. Also, Vitter is a married, family-valued promoting hetero seeking hetero sex on the side. Allen, too, is married, but seeking gay sex in a park reeks of the closet, and the closet reeks of internalized homophobia.

Some stories have mentioned that Allen is a former Little League volunteer and has donated time to the Girls and Boys Town of Central Florida. Get the drift. The thinly veiled suggestion that his kind shouldn't be near innocent kiddies is also something never suggested in reporting on hetero transgressors like Vitter.

More. David Boaz blogs:

Vitter's hostility to gay marriage while cheating on his own is a matter of simple political hypocrisy. The more specific issue...is that Vitter (presumably) supports the laws against prostitution. Yet he himself, while a member of the United States Congress, has broken those laws and solicited other people to break them.

Vitter should be asked: Do you think prostitution should be illegal? If so, will you turn yourself in?

The answer, of course, is yes he does, and no he won't.

HRC’s Party

Sen. Mike Gravel may be a very long shot for the Democratic presidential nomination, but that hasn't stopped CNN, PBS, NBC and the NAACP from inviting him to their sponsored debates. So why has the Human Rights Campaign, the mega-Washington LGBT/Democratic Party lobby, excluded him from their upcoming gay issues forum, where questions will be posed by HRC head and abortion-rights activist Joe Solmonese and lesbian singer/celeb Melissa Etheridge? Gravel has an answer: his pro-gay stances, especially on marriage and military service, would make HRC's designated party faves (Hillary, Obama, Edwards) look bad.

Comments Andrew Sullivan, Gravel "understands that HRC cares much less about gay equality than about their own money and access. This debate is designed to maximize both. There will be no tough questions. Especially of Clinton. Solmonese and Etheridge are her stooges."

Update. Responding to the criticism, HRC relents and invites Sen. Gravel. Also, the Log Cabin Republicans' Scott Tucker states the obvious: "With Melissa Etheridge, a Democratic activist, asking the questions, it should be no surprise that the Republican candidates decided not to participate." True, but it's not likely they'd have come anyway.

But just why did HRC decide to stage a candidates forum that looks like American Idol?

Also, regarding Sullivan, he gives IGF this plug while making the point that-despite what both liberals and conservatives tend to think-all gay people are not supporters of bigger government with ever-increasing regulation, even when those constraints on individual liberty are portrayed (a la HRC) as advances for "gay rights."

Exposing Phony ‘Experts’

In Washington, being publicly discredited is no bar to employment for the industrious and well-connected. If you are sufficiently shameless, being a disgraced former official needn't prevent you from reincarnating as a highly paid lobbyist or think-tank pundit or deputy something-or-other. There seems to be no getting rid of some people.

A similar case is that of notorious junk science peddler Paul Cameron. He keeps generating his slanderous statistics about gay people, and uninformed reporters and editors keep eating up the stuff. The latest reminder came on July 5 as I was checking out the latest issue of Bay Windows online. Near the top of the screen, in the EDGEwire newslink box, was the headline, "Family Research Council Study: Gays Die Young."

The study in question is by Cameron and his son Kirk. While the EDGE article uses verbs like "claims" and "purports," provides "balance" by reporting contrary views, and points out the anti-gay nature of the Camerons' Family Research Institute, it respectfully cites the Camerons' Ph.Ds without mentioning that the senior Cameron was expelled by the American Psychological Association in December 1983 for using unsound methods and misrepresenting others' research.

For decades, Paul Cameron has been the favorite "expert" of anti-gay obsessives. His institute publishes pseudoscientific reports filled with false claims, such as that child molesters and sex murderers are disproportionately gay. His work has been used by syndicated columnists, members of Congress, and Pentagon officials. Therein lies the problem: Paul's preposterous pamphlets would vanish without a trace if others did not keep recycling them or if reporters were more careful about checking their sources.

Perhaps Cameron's most oft-quoted claim is that gay men have a dramatically shorter life expectancy. After Cameron disseminated brochures claiming that the average male homosexual life span was 43 years, many people repeated it in print and on television as a serious statistic. Problem is, there is no scientific basis for his claim. Cameron arrived at that figure by examining obituaries in gay newspapers during the height of the AIDS epidemic and averaging the reported ages of death.

Even assuming that the readership of those papers was representative of the entire gay community and that the obits were representative of all gay deaths - both assumptions are questionable - this method excludes everyone who did not die. That is like surveying the obituaries of soldiers killed in Iraq and concluding that the average life expectancy of soldiers is in the low 20s.

Readers of EDGE who are unfamiliar with Cameron might get the impression that he is a serious researcher, however flawed his methodology and conclusions. In actuality, as the Box Turtle Bulletin website reports, Cameron refers to homosexuals' "parasitic lives," decries equal rights as "Super Rights," accuses homosexuals of running a "shadow organization" in the U.S. military (which would come as a surprise to the more than 11,000 service members discharged under "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"), and calls homosexuals a threat to Western Civilization. The latter assertion is especially ironic considering that Cameron approvingly cites the work of the commandant of the Auschwitz death camp.

The Camerons are not the only phony experts used by irresponsible news organizations. On the same day as the EDGE story, the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) issued an alert denouncing a June 21 report by The O'Reilly Factor in which Fox News Crime Analyst Rod Wheeler described a nationwide epidemic of lesbian gangs. Without citing sources, Wheeler claimed that the Washington, D.C. area alone has more than 150 lesbian gangs, that they recruit children, and that many gang members use pink-painted Glock pistols. (This last stray bullet of wild invention hit the gay gun-rights group Pink Pistols, which has nothing to do with gangs and whose name is not intended literally.)

As GLAAD reports, Detective Patrick Word, president of the Mid-Atlantic Regional Gang Investigators Network, stated, "There is no evidence whatsoever of a lesbian gang epidemic in this region … our membership reports only one lesbian gang." According to a report by the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC), Wheeler is a "food defense specialist" for the American Institute of Baking who was suspended by the D.C. Metropolitan Police Department in 1994 after testing positive for marijuana use.

One advantage enjoyed by phony experts is that those who interview them and report their published claims are seldom prepared to challenge either their claims or their professional credentials. At best, dissenting views are quoted, as in the EDGE story, but with little context to facilitate an informed evaluation.

When counterposed quotes from newsmakers are substituted for investigative reporting, the implication is that there are no objective facts to be ascertained. Amazingly enough, the resulting "he said, she said" standoff is treated as a reason for boasting - as with Fox News Channel's slogan, "We Report, You Decide." This gives uninformed gut reactions the same standing as specialized expertise.

We are fortunate that groups like GLAAD, Box Turtle Bulletin and SPLC are active in refuting anti-gay propaganda disguised as news, but there are far more news outlets than they can handle, in an expanding array of media. All of us who are consumers as well as subjects of the news must be vigilant. When you find a reporter giving credence to the work of an anti-gay "expert," call the reporter and the editor on it. Instead of merely berating them, use the occasion as a teaching moment. First, though, be sure to do more careful homework than the reporter.

Small Conversions, Big Victories

If I were the religious type, I might be preparing for Armageddon right now.

You see, last weekend my partner Mark and I drove out to his parents' house to help with yard work. This in itself would be unremarkable except that, as recently as Christmas, Mark's father insisted that I would be welcome at their house "over [his] dead body."

We arrive. Mark's father greets us at the door. He appears to be breathing normally. This is progress.

Mark and I have been together for nearly six years. When we first started dating, he was fresh out of law school, living with his parents while he looked for a job. He had not yet come out to them. "I figured I should wait until I had someone special in my life to tell them about," he explained to me.

"Isn't that sweet," I replied to him. "What a bad idea," I thought to myself.

Just as I feared: when Mark finally did come out to his parents, I personified for them everything that had gone wrong. I was "that man" (they could never bring themselves to use my name) who had corrupted their son. Never mind that Mark had been dating guys for years before meeting me: in their minds, his being gay was all my fault.

We hoped that their wrath would subside quickly, but it didn't. They refused to come to our house. They refused, even, to meet me. So we decided to ambush them. One Sunday, Mark's sister invited everyone out to lunch. "We won't tell them you're coming," she explained sympathetically. "In a public place, they'll have to be nice to you."

Mark's family is Asian. Like many Asians, they believe in "saving face." They abhor public scenes. (By contrast, my family is Italian. We believe in expressing ourselves. Public scenes are our forte.)

When Mark's parents arrived at the restaurant that day, Mark took a deep breath and blurted out, "Mom, Dad, this is John."

"Nice to meet you," I offered. They responded with a look that could wilt flowers.

We managed to get through lunch. But our ambush only caused them to dig in their heels deeper. They refused to attend Mark's 30th birthday dinner because "that man" would be there. They refused to attend his sister's engagement party because we were hosting it at our house. We seriously worried that they might refuse to attend her wedding.

When they finally bought their plane tickets for the wedding (held at a Mexican resort, on "neutral" territory), we were apprehensive. "These all-inclusive resorts have unlimited alcoholic beverages?" we asked his sister. "We'll need them."

Adding to the drama was the fact that my own parents would be attending. My Sicilian mother meets my Filipino mother-in-law. An irresistible force meets an immovable object. Our friends wanted ringside seats.

The wedding went off without a hitch. My parents-who have been wonderfully supportive-introduced themselves to Mark's parents. "You have such a lovely family," my mother said to Mark's mother. I watched for the flower-wilting look, but I couldn't detect it. Maybe the margaritas had kicked in.

But it wasn't just the margaritas. The wedding seems to have been a turning point. Maybe it was Mark's parents' seeing us interact closely with my parents, and realizing that they were missing out. Maybe it was their seeing that I actually had parents, rather than having emerged directly from hell. Whatever it was, they softened. Dramatically.

Mother's Day came, and we all went out to brunch. I didn't have to ambush them.

Father's Day came, and they actually visited our house. They complimented us on our garden, our food, our furniture. When they finally drove away, I turned to Mark and said, "Who were those people and what have they done with your parents?"

"I have no idea," he replied, dazed.

Then last weekend we went over to help them with weeding and planting. "John, work in the shade," his mother insisted. "The sun is too hot." She brought me a towel so I wouldn't have to kneel on rocky soil. She brought me bottles of cold water. (I checked the caps before drinking them. Tamper-proof.) Both she and his father were extremely gracious, and I don't think it was just for the free yard work.

In recent years gays have seen tremendous social and legal progress. There is much work to be done. But some of the most important work, and the most powerful, occurs on a small scale. It's mothers' introducing themselves to mothers-in-law (even when there is no "law" recognizing the relationship). It's yard work; it's brunch. Raise a margarita and drink to that.

Asylum Seeking

Another angle on the immigration debate, Persecuted Gays Seek Refuge in U.S. From the Washington Post:

Harassment and abuse of gay men and lesbians is becoming increasingly accepted as grounds for legal asylum in the United States, even at a time of conservative judicial activism, fear about HIV/AIDS transmission and increased scrutiny of asylum seekers.

[But]...such asylum cases are still extremely difficult to win, according to lawyers in Washington and elsewhere.

And, of course, the inability of non-U.S. partners of U.S. citizens to receive citizenship (as hetero spouses do) or to otherwise legally reside here for "family reunification" is another bitter gay-immigration overlap.

Armed Lesbians Attack!!!

Fox's Bill O'Reilly goes off the deep end with a segment titled "Violent Lesbian Gangs a Growing Problem," built around an interview with "Fox News crime analyst" and anti-gay activist Rod Wheeler.

According to the O'Reilly Factor website:

The Factor [O'Reilly] was astonished by Wheeler's revelations. "I never would have thought of this. We associate homosexuality more with a social movement, not a criminal movement."

Wheeler paints a delirious picture of the USA as a country run amok with hundreds of violent lesbian gangs-more than 150 gangs in the Washington area alone!-forcibly converting young girls to homosexuality and calling themselves the "pink-pistol packing group." This led the actual Pink Pistols, a law-abiding, pro-gun gay group, to fire back. [Update: Wheeler apologizes]

Alas, too many social conservatives would rather pander luridly to anti-gay bigotry than consider the worth of working with gays who are themselves critical of the big government liberal-left agenda, such as (in this case) the pro-Second Amendment Pink Pistols. Bigotry first, it seems. (initial hat tip: Andrew Sullivan)

More. Interestingly, the Washington Post just ran this story about a lesbian FBI agent who used her firearm to foil a break-in of her neighbor's home. One can only imagine the fervid spin O'Reilly would give to an account of this incident!