Ike Skelton, the Chair of the House Armed Services Committee,
has been no friend to the repeal of DADT. But sometimes people who
disagree with us can make our arguments better than our strongest
supporters do, and Skelton's comments
to CBS News tellingly reveal the denial and futility at the heart
of the DADT opposition.
As we argue about equality and patriotism and the harm a nation
can do to itself by looking at this issue through the narrow slit
of prejudice, Skelton sees the problem with DADT repeal more
simplistically, and in a way few of our supporters would even have
thought of: "What do mommies and daddies say to their 7-year-old
child?" he asked.
That's a surprisingly good question, when you think about it.
Not a lot of 7-year olds will be weighing in on the merits of gay
soldiers serving openly in Afghanistan, but that's not what
Skelton's talking about. In fact, he's articulating the concern of
the entire generation of people who grew up denying that lesbians
and gay men existed - could exist - at all. They're older
than 7, but when it comes to homosexuality, they have that same
sort of idealized innocence. Skelton speaks for those who think
that homosexuality, like cancer, should only be whispered about in
public, to shelter tender minds from facing this dark truth too
soon, the people who believe in their deepest hearts that
homosexuality, if it must exist, is something to be ashamed of,
suppressed, and kept hidden from the public (which is what those
7-year olds have been enlisted for) at all costs.
Skelton and his constituency are living in an increasingly
shrinking closet. According to a new CBS poll,
77% of Americans know someone who is homosexual, compared to 42%
who could say that in 1992. And while the remaining 22% today can
say they don't know anyone who's lesbian or gay, they certainly
can't say they haven't heard about people who are. The fact that
the question is now regularly being asked in public interest polls
presupposes the problem that irks Skelton and others: sexual
orientation is a political subject that pretty much all Americans
are asked about, talk about, and have opinions about. Directly to
Skelton's point, there are not a lot of nooks and crannies left in
the country where discussion of gay rights is not permitted, for
adults or children. Conservative churches from one end of the
nation to the other have made sure of that, as has the National
Organization for Marriage and other anti-gay groups that run ads -
on television and radio and in newspapers - opposing gay equality.
Like discussion of DADT, those ads can and do lead kids to ask
questions of their mommies and daddies.
In fact, the only place where discussion of gay rights is
hindered at all is in the military. Heterosexual soldiers, of
course, are free to weigh in to support or oppose (or be
indifferent to) DADT - as long as it's eminently clear they are
straight. Lesbian and gay soldiers, however, have to be ever
cautious about what they say and how they say it, and certainly
cannot articulate the fact that their opposition might arise from
experience.
And that is the point. Not that we are protecting children,
somehow, since they'll be exposed to the public debates over
homosexuality in any number of contexts, DADT being only one. No,
all DADT protects is its own premise: that homosexual soldiers
should be silent about that fact, and leave the debate over their
lives to the heterosexuals.
This has historically been a very successful strategy of
disabling the very people who discrimination harms from explaining
why, and arguing for its elimination from the law. But those days
are gone. Even the new survey of military opinions on DADT will
inquire into the opinions of the very people the policy harms. . .
in fact, the only people the policy harms. They will still have to
remain in the closet in order to be surveyed - something not even
Kafka or Orwell could have imagined - but they will be asked; as
bizarre a victory as I can envision.
And while all of that is going on, 7-year olds across the
country will be watching TV and listening to the radio, and even
talking to their friends at school. It's entirely possible they
already know more about gay people than Ike Skelton does, and will
likely be more comfortable viewing gay people as just people than
Skelton wants them to be.