One quick reaction to two key court decisions, one in federal court, the other in Connecticut state court: Both are good news if you think there should be room in the gay-marriage debate for centrism and compromise.
Many (not all!) conservatives insist that a U.S. constitutional amendment is needed to stop federal judges from ordering gay marriage. They raised a hue and cry about an eccentric lower-court decision holding that Nebraska's ban on SSM and other gay unions violated the U.S. constitution. Well, a federal appeals court (the 8th Circuit) has decisively overturned that ruling. The appeals court didn't rule on whether the Nebraska law or gay marriage is a good idea. It just said that the law could be defended as rational (a super-low standard), so federal courts should defer to the state and butt out.
Good. Good for gays, and also good for the country. If the federal appeals court had barged in and overturned the state's ban, that would have given immeasurable impetus to the drive to amend the U.S. constitution. It would also have nationalized the gay-marriage debate, which belongs in the states, where gradually gay marriage can win converts. Maybe that's why the Alliance for Marriage was so grudging in its statement about the 8th Circuit decision.
The decision does pose a question for conservatives who believe, as conservatives should (and as AFM does not), that when it is not necessary to amend the Constitution, it is necessary not to amend the Constitution. With the appeals court having firmly butted out (and the U.S. Supreme Court 99.999% certain to let the decision stand), what's the excuse for an amendment whose supporters claim their goal is to stop judges from ramming gay marriage down the whole country's throat? If that's the problem, wouldn't a real conservative say, "Let's leave the constitution alone until there's some faint sign of need to change it"?
Meanwhile, the Connecticut court ruled against gay couples who said that the state constitution requires marriage-not just civil unions, which the state provides and which are like marriage in all but name. Make no mistake, I prefer marriage to civil unions. But many hard-core opponents of SSM would like nothing better than for courts to take away the civil-union compromise, because if it's a choice between all or nothing, "nothing" will usually win.
I bow to no one in my advocacy of gay marriage, but in a democracy, we have no choice but to persuade the public. That debate is going to take time. By keeping the issue at the state level and holding the door open to civil unions, these two court decisions promote compromise and deliberation over polarization and panic. The center is holding. Amen to that.