Thomas F. Coleman: Defending the Deviants

1976 was a momentous year for gay rights in California. The legislature had finally passed the bill decriminalizing sexual acts between consenting adults and it went into effect on January 1. Criminal sodomy laws were one of the key legal underpinnings of the closet. The mere threat of prosecution drove most men who had been caught or entrapped to confess and enter a guilty plea, and these easy prosecutions were appealing to vice officers and prosecutors. In this post Lawrence v. Texas world, it might be hard to appreciate how important this change was, but in California it was the beginning of the modern era.

After the law went into effect, police were still able to harass gay men, but not for any underlying criminal sexual conduct. Rather, they used Penal Code section 647(a), which made it a crime to solicit or engage in "lewd and dissolute" conduct. Tom Coleman had been interested in the selective use of this section against gay men since 1972, and in 1976 he had the opportunity to challenge it. Tom was then known as one of the go-to lawyers in the barely existent gay legal community, and Don Pryor came into his office having been arrested for solicitation of oral sex with an undercover vice cop.

Again, some context is important. At the trial, Tom was told by the judge that he could not use the words "gay" or "homosexual" in the courtroom. The judge would only accept the common legal parlance at the time, "sexual pervert" or "sexual deviant." (As an experiment, try to find newspaper articles prior to the 1970s about lesbians or gay men. You will find very few that use those terms, and a couple that might use the term "homosexual." But search for "sexual pervert" or "deviant" and you will have the key to learning about our history, at least in the public record.)

Despite the vocabulary skirmish, the trial went forward. After the jury could not agree on a verdict (five jurors wanted to convict, seven to acquit), the judge ordered a mistrial. But Tom's primary theory of the case was the unconstitutionality of section 647(a) in such cases, in light of the fact that there was no underlying crime at issue any more. If oral sex is not a crime, how can asking someone to engage in it consensually be prosecuted? So rather than go through a retrial, he filed suit directly in the California Supreme Court. That case, Pryor v. Municipal Court, while not directly overturning 647(a), narrowed it in light of the new law so that it was effectively useless as a tool to harass gay men.

If this seems like an insubstantial victory in light of what is going on today, it was certainly not at the time. In tandem with the legislative decriminalization, there was very little left in California for police to use against homosexuals. As a consequence, lesbians and gay men could more confidently come out of the closet.

More important, it paved the way for more openness by lesbians and gay men in the legal field, both as lawyers and judges - which is exactly what happened in Los Angeles. Openly gay lawyers at the time were subject to being disbarred for criminal activity, and simply by being openly gay they were taking a big risk. Decriminalization was enormously important in opening the closet door, but it was 647(a) that enabled the existing prejudice of police officers, judges and even lawyers on the other side to have the upper hand over anyone even suspected of being homosexual. Making that statute a nullity was a critical step in creating a fully open and proud gay community.

That victory allowed Tom to move into working more directly in the political process, and specifically, with the office of the governor.

Thomas F. Coleman: One of the Pioneers

I've realized that my references to Thomas F. Coleman may need some background. Because I've known Tom since the 1980s, in my mind he's part of the context of the gay rights movement. But few people know the long list of his accomplishments. So I'll be doing a few posts that I hope will capture at least some of the key roles Tom has played in getting us to where we are today. It is easy to forget - or for younger people, not to even know - that charges of "judicial activism" and bigotry by gays against Christians are fairly new political tactics. Not that long ago, judges and the police were really part of the problem, and the dominant prejudice against homosexuals was so complete that many lesbians and gay men accepted it themselves. Tom is one of the people who helped us turn that around.

Tom moved to Los Angeles from Detroit at about the same time the Stonewall Riots were taking place in New York - which is to say, about two years after the Black Cat riots took place in a similar bar in Los Angeles, which helped prompt the creation of The Advocate.

He attended L.A.'s Loyola Law School and helped form one of the first gay law student groups in 1972 - with both formal recognition by the school and student group funding. To give you some sense of the era, Tom attended the Ninth Circuit's ABA meeting that summer, and, after much soul searching and anxiety, asked a fellow male student to dance at a social event - to turned heads and considerable gawking.

Gay men were, at the time, still being arrested by the police in L.A. at gay bars even after the Black Cat Tavern riots, and Tom focused on asserting that the solicitation law the police relied on was unconstitutional. He helped organize 22 individual defendants who had been arrested at the Black Pipe bar into a group who challenged the solicitation law - a legal first. In those days, police could depend on the shame of the defendants to win their convictions. By organizing the defendants Tom helped to turn the tables, to show the court that these men did not necessarily accept the prevailing notion that what they'd done was wrong.

A bit of context is in order. At the time, the L.A. police unit assigned to gay bars was referred to as the "fruit detail." A police representative provided written testimony to the legislature that gay men were prone to the seduction and molestation of adolescents and children. L.A.'s inordinately powerful police chief, Ed Davis, was publicly comparing gays to lepers spreading disease.

Tom worked with several other people to issue a report that showed gay men were being selectively prosecuted. Despite very strong political opposition, he stuck to his guns in public forums, challenging Davis - at one point having to adopt his middle initial because there was another Tom Coleman practicing law in L.A. who was concerned about being misidentified from the increasing number of press reports about Thomas F. Coleman's crusade.

Some more context. In one of Tom's cases, his client accepted a plea bargain. When the judge issued the probation terms, he included these: (1) the client could not "publicly associate with known homosexuals," and (2) he had to stay out of places where homosexuals would congregate. Tom, of course, objected since this meant his client could not, in fact, associate with his own lawyer, a "known" homosexual. The judge blithely noted Tom's objection, and Tom took his client by the arm, asking him in a loud voice to violate the terms of his probation. They went to the chambers of the supervising judge, and after some negotiation got an order from the court that such probation terms were improper.

This is the legal and social structure that existed - and needed to be changed - before anyone could even think about what rights same-sex couples were entitled to.

[Note: The non-public information here is taken from Tom's as-yet unpublished memoir, The Domino Effect.]

How Gay Marriage Was Born

Jon Rauch mentions his very good article on the vital, social importance of incrementalism in gay marriage. To that, I add a hearty Amen, and urge everyone to read it immediately.

But in mentioning one of the most important strains in the original thinking about how to achieve equality - what Jon calls "the family stream," a more conservative contrast to the liberal Stonewall civil rights stream - he winds up underarguing his own point. And in so doing, he makes a mistake too many people do -- undervaluing the landmark role that California played in gay marriage by taking a series of small, cautious local steps before making equality a statewide issue. California did not start with marriage or lawsuits It started with domestic partnership.

As I argued in California's Quiet Revolution, the landscape in the 1980s included no legal rights at all for same-sex couples as couples. While we had access, in California, to explicit contractual rights under our Supreme Court's landmark decision in Marvin v. Marvin, no law anywhere - not in California, not in the U.S., and not anywhere else on earth - recognized the relationships of same-sex couples.

That changed in the early 1980s, when the City of Berkeley began its first efforts to recognize "domestic partners." The original and unprecedented laws went into place in Berkeley in 1984, followed the next year by the City of West Hollywood.

None of these ordinances could have changed California's marriage law, and they did not purport to. They simply did at the local level what local governments can do - recognized that same-sex couples existed within their jurisdictions and had the same needs that opposite-sex couples did. Since they could not get married under state law, the local governments provided what recognition and rights they could. The revolution was that it was governments that were trying to treat same-sex couples fairly.

This local movement took a giant leap forward in 1986 when Thomas F. Coleman, Nora Baladerian and Christopher McCauley got the City of Los Angeles to create its Task Force on Family Diversity - which, for full disclosure, I served on. The point of the task force was to show that the notion of "family," traditionally limited in law to relationships of blood, marriage and adoption, included people - specifically same-sex couples - who were functioning families even though they could not meet the existing legal qualifications.

That task force is, in my (obviously biased) opinion, the fountainhead of Jon's family stream. It is what led to L.A.'s adoption of a domestic partnership ordinance in 1988, and that is what helped to put domestic partnership - and the awkward legal position of same-sex couples in the law -- on the map. And it was domestic partnership that caused the very slow but inevitable movement that has landed us in today's radically different legal world for same-sex couples.

Thus, I disagree with Jon's assertion that "Right off the bat, the political activists involved in same-sex marriage eschewed Burkean principles. . . " That may have been true of an awful lot of activists on both sides, probably the vast majority. But there were some visionaries - and Tom Coleman is one of the most savvy - who saw the value of taking small steps to begin a long journey.

Religious Liberty AND Gay Marriage

Connecticut has just codified its (already court-ordered) gay marriage with significant religious liberty provisions attached. Vermont did the same thing just days ago. So we can now say that coupling gay marriage with opt-outs based on religious conscience is a trend, if not a movement.

IGFer Dale Carpenter is guardedly positive about this development. Put me down as enthusiastic. What's being demonstrated here is that an Armageddon-like conflict between gay rights and religious rights not only can but will be averted. Indeed, is a win for both gay equality and religious freedom, and it douses the culture wars into the bargain. That's hitting the Trifecta.

In this article, I argue that America is getting gay marriage right by steering a moderate and incrementalist path forward, despite the best efforts of culture warriors and purists to conspire against the center. Vermont and Connecticut are more evidence that this is true.

BTW: IGF is proud to welcome Dale Carpenter as a blogger. He's so smart that every time I read him I think, "Thank God he's on our side."

Killing Them Softly

Professor Dale Carpenter (who I am happy to be the first to note has just joined our blog with Joan de Fresno) has an excellent piece at another site about religious liberty protections for those opposed to same-sex marriage. He expands on the Jon Rauch/David Blankenhorn compromise, and asks some very pointed questions which, I think, boil down to a single one: How should the law deal with individual religious believers?

The First Amendment protects the "free exercise" of religion, which sounds pretty broad. But as Justice Antonin Scalia has pointed out, if this protection were too broad, it would allow any religious believer to opt out of obeying the law. If any person's action based on a religious belief is the protected exercise of religion, then few laws would be exempt from a potential personal veto. Scalia took this threat seriously in his 1990 majority opinion in Employment Division v. Smith, where the court upheld an Oregon law prohibiting drug use against a challenge from religious believers who wanted to use peyote in a sacramental exercise.

It is usually easy to determine what counts as a religious exercise in a church, and even for a religious entity such as a church-run hospital. But the law protects "sincerely held" religious beliefs, and any individual can sincerely believe pretty much anything, up to an including that

Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.

This is an exact quote from the trial judge who originally upheld Virginia's law prohibiting blacks and whites from marrying one another, the law the Supreme Court overturned in Loving v. Virginia.

An awful lot of people believe awfully sincerely that homosexuals are sinners, a belief that is in direct conflict with laws treating lesbians and gay men equally in civil society. I have been concerned about the scope of a personal religious veto, not just with respect to homosexuals but in general, since the early 1990s when I worked on a California Supreme Court follow-up case to Employment Division v. Smith.

Our court didn't adopt a theory I'd proposed on religious freedom, but since 1996, I confess that individual cases of abuse of free exercise have not been clogging the courts as I'd feared. That's why Douglas Laycock's eloquent letter to the Connecticut Legislature resonates with me. He is a well-known scholar of the contours of religious liberty, and notes his own support of same-sex marriage. He argues that religious opponents need some breathing room in our democracy on this issue.

This will come at some cost to same-sex couples who might have to suffer through some uncomfortable face-to-face religious opposition in public situations. That is no small thing for those of us who have encountered it. But those couples will also know that this individual's personal beliefs, whether respectfully and civilly articulated or not, won't prevent the couple from obtaining whatever the law permits and the market provides.

After many years of pondering the options, I think this is a reasonable trade-off. The law, in all its majesty, cannot prevent people from experiencing their deep feelings, and it is at its weakest when it tries. Laycock states what has become painfully obvious:

Refusing exemptions to such religious dissenters will politically empower the most demagogic opponents of same-sex marriage. It will ensure that the issue remains alive, bitter, and deeply divisive.

Laycock is convinced that there won't be a lot of objectors, and while I'm a bit more skeptical, I think it's worth a shot. Religious anxiety really is the only argument left against homosexuality, and even that is fading. If we can kill it off with kindness, I'm for it.

Joan de Fresno

The controversy is this. Miss California finished second in the Miss USA contest after she gave an equivocal, factually incorrect, and inarticulate answer to a question. This alone does not distinguish her from the field. But the particular question was whether she supports SSM, which gets everyone's culture-war adrenalin flowing. She answered that it's "great" to live in a country where people are "free to choose same-sex marriage" or "the opposite marriage" - which is descriptively false but sounded as if she supported SSM as a policy matter. Then she added that in "my country" or in "my family" marriage "is between a man and a woman" - "no offense intended" to anyone.

I, for one, took no offense because I have no idea what she meant. The most likely interpretation is that she was playing to both sides, supporting same-sex marriage as a policy matter, but personally opposing it, the way one might believe a protestor has the right to burn a flag but think that flag-burning is wrong. I think just about every SSM supporter can live with that. And if it had been left there the matter might have been entirely forgotten, as the answers in all these beauty-contestant pageants are forgotten. As the second-place finisher, Miss California herself would have been forgotten, as indeed are the first-place finishers.

But the judge who asked the question, an openly gay celebrity-gossip maven, then defensively posted a video denying what nobody had yet charged, that Miss California had lost because she opposed gay marriage, which she hadn't opposed. Even this might have been forgotten if he hadn't added insult to non-injury by screeching that she had really lost because she's "a stupid b-h" who couldn't give a coherent answer to a predictable question.

By the next morning, the disappointed Miss California with no definable position on gay marriage had transmogrified into a free-speech and religious-freedom martyr who lost because she bravely stood up for her values, in "a test from God," against the gay mafia and the fork-tongued enforcers of PC orthodoxy. Never mind that the gay questioner was one of twelve judges. Never mind that the director of the Miss California organization said that he did not think she had lost because of her answer to the gay-marriage question. Never mind that she had been third going into the question round - which comes on the heels of the swimsuit round and the evening-gown round and the walk-around-the-room-and-wink round.

The whole manufactured controversy was a microcosm of the talk-show argument against gay marriage: dubious causation, exaggerated victimhood, endless repetition, and selected deployment of the most outrageous statements from the most overbearing gay advocates as if they somehow speak for gay families.

By the next afternoon, Maggie Gallagher at NRO annointed Miss California the new exemplar of traditional marriage for standing up against "lies and hatred" and all the demon bats of Hollywood.

Really? If there's a public face for Maggie's anti-SSM campaign, isn't it Levi Johnston, who appeared on Larry King Live last night, and Bristol Palin, whose traditional-family-values upbringing might be undermined? Aren't they the kind of folks who might become dangerously confused if gays wed? Adam and Steve get hitched and, next thing you know, Levi and Bristol will be off forgetting that sex, marriage, and babies go together.

An Inclusive Catholicism

On Good Friday, Jenny and I went to services at a Catholic church near Jenny's lesbian neighborhood of Andersonville in Chicago.

Jenny and I have had a lot of discussions about which denomination should be our church home. We take the decision seriously, because we both take religion seriously; Jenny grew up Catholic and went to Catholic school, and though I was baptized in that faith as well, I alternated between mass with my dad and the liberal (and gay-welcoming) United Church of Christ with my mom. As a young adult, I attended a (couldn't be more progressive) Unitarian-Universalist seminary briefly.

We both like the "high church" ritual of Catholicism - but we want children together, and neither of us wants to raise kids in a tradition that both tells girls that no matter how faithful they may be, they can never be priests, and that tells children of gay parents that our relationships and families are immoral.

"I don't want our kids to hear one thing in church and then have us say another thing to them in the car ride home," Jenny said.

But kids are still a few years in our future, so when we're in the same city, we try to go to church together, and we alternate denominations.

On Good Friday, then, it was a Catholic church - though Jenny was worried about taking me somewhere we might not be welcome on such a solemn holy day.

Most Christian churches have an alternate sort of service on Good Friday, the day they commemorate the death of Jesus on the cross. In Catholic churches, this means that there is no mass, so there is more flexibility in the service.

Even so, we were stunned to see a woman lead the service at this particular church. To see a woman standing at the altar. To see a woman holding up the Host during communion. To hear all the parts in the traditional crucifixion story - Pontius Pilate, voices in the crowd, and Jesus himself - read by women.

Most of all though, we were startled to hear the homily, which was all about social justice - and about how all should be welcome in the Catholic church despite theological disagreements, including gays and lesbians.

Jenny grabbed my arm. "What is happening right now?" she whispered.

We were awestruck - and by awestruck, I mean that I was moved to tears.

For an hour, we had a taste of what the Catholic church could be: a warm, welcoming, sacred home that focused on comforting those who are suffering; on righting the situation of those who have been wronged; and on welcoming those who have been excluded.

It was revolutionary.

"If this was what the Catholic church was everywhere, I would convert," I told Jenny, as we left the church holding hands, the priest smiling at us.

Some might argue that a Catholic church that treats women equally and recognizes the sacredness of gay and lesbian relationships is not the Catholic church at all - but I think it is a Catholic church that hews closer to its social justice roots, and closer to the basic principles of inclusion for all that Jesus himself espoused.

In any case, that church did a brave thing, just as it is always brave to ask people to see what could be, instead of insisting that they live with what is.

During the prayers, the women led us to pray for all who are excluded, for all who are hurt by unfair legislation. And afterwards, I added my own prayer - for the world-wide Catholic church to become more like this, to become its own best possibility.

Storm of Nonsense

Leave it to the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) to try to rain on our parade.

I'm talking about NOM's "Gathering Storm" ad, in which various characters warn that recent gay-rights victories are threatening their fundamental liberties: "There's a storm gathering. The clouds are dark, and the winds are strong. And I am afraid…"

The ad, in turn, prompted a number of YouTube responses, ranging from hilarious parodies ("There's a bullshit storm gathering"), to serious fact-checking, to exposure of the audition tapes.

The latter was embarrassing for NOM, since it highlighted that these frightened folks were actually actors reading lines. (Either that, or every single one of them is both a California doctor AND a Massachusetts parent-and what are the odds of that?)

Personally, I don't find it overly troubling that the characters are all actors. The ad contained a small-print caption stating as much, and besides, their forced emotion was about as realistic as the lightning in the background.

No, it's not the use of actors that's troubling. It's the fact that virtually everything they say is misleading or false.

The central claim of the ad is that same-sex marriage threatens heterosexuals' freedoms: "My freedom will be taken away….I will have no choice."

One would think that Iowa and Vermont had just declared same-sex marriage mandatory.

But of course, they did no such thing. They simply acknowledged that gay and lesbian couples are entitled to the same legal rights and responsibilities as their straight counterparts.

How does this threaten anyone's freedom? The ad mentions three cases-presumably the best examples they have-to illustrate the alleged danger:

(1) "I'm a California doctor who must choose between my faith and my job."

Not exactly. California doctors can practice whatever faith they like-as long as it doesn't interfere with patient care. The case in question involves a doctor who declined to perform artificial insemination for a lesbian couple, thus violating California anti-discrimination law.

I can appreciate the argument that a liberal society protects religious freedom, and that we should thus allow doctors in non-emergency cases to refer patients to their colleagues for procedures which violate their consciences.

But what are the limits of such exemptions? What if a doctor opposed divorce, and thus refused to perform insemination for a heterosexual woman in her second marriage? What if she opposed interfaith marriage, and refused to perform insemination for a Christian married to a Jew, or even for a Catholic married to a Methodist?

Or what if a doctor refused to perform insemination for anyone except Muslims, on the grounds that children ought only to be raised in Muslim households? These are questions our opponents never bother to consider when they play the religious-conscience card.

(2) "I'm part of a New Jersey church group punished by the government because we can't support same-sex marriage."

No, you're (an actor playing) part of a New Jersey church group that operates Ocean Grove Camp. Ocean Grove Camp received a property-tax exemption by promising to make its grounds open to the public; it also received substantial tax dollars to support the facility's maintenance. It then chose to exclude some of those taxpayers-in this case, a lesbian couple wishing to use the camp's allegedly "public" pavilion for their civil union ceremony. So naturally, New Jersey revoked the pavilion's (though not the whole camp's) property-tax exemption.

(3) "I am a Massachusetts parent helplessly watching public schools teach my son that gay marriage is OK."

Massachusetts parents-like any other parents-can teach their children what they wish at home. What they cannot do is dictate public school curriculum so that it reflects only the families they like.

What these complaints make abundantly clear is that by "freedom," our opponents mean the freedom to live in a world where they never have to confront the fact that others choose to exercise their freedom differently.

In other words, they intend the very opposite of a free society.

According to the NOM ad, in seeking marriage equality, gay-rights advocates "want to change the way I live."

There is a tiny grain of truth in this latter claim. Marriage is a public institution. If you enter the public sphere, you may think or feel or say whatever you like about someone's marriage, but you nevertheless must respect its legal boundaries.

Even so, I think our opponents have incredible chutzpah to frame this issue as being about personal liberty. Freedom means freedom to differ, not to obliterate difference.

Or as Wanda Sykes aptly put it, capturing the irony of the freedom complaint:

"If you don't believe in same-sex marriage…then don't marry somebody of the same sex."

GOP – Ignorance Is Bliss

This quote within Jon Rauch's post jumped out of me: "Another 37 percent said they thought the party should avoid the issue [of gay marriage]."

And there you have it: a capsule summary of the problem very small minorities have in a democracy. The majority already has all the relationship rights they want or need. It's easy for them to simply "avoid" the issue of same-sex marriage.

We don't have that luxury, but only because we're the only ones directly affected by the lack of equal rights. We don't get a day off from inequality, and if we were to avoid the issue, it would mean giving up on ourselves.

Does anyone really think, after we've come this far, that we're going to call it quits? Well over a third of these Republicans may want the whole issue to just go away, but that's because the status quo works for them. It doesn't work for us, and it is a supreme goal of this movement to make sure that heterosexuals truly understand that fundamental fact.

Signs of the Times

Frank Rich had some interesting thoughts (yes, I actually said that) in his Sunday New York Times column. He remarks on the scant reaction on the right to the Iowa and Vermont marriage victories, aside from the silly anti-gay YouTube missive from Maggie Gallagher's "National Organization for Marriage." Writes columnist Rich:

Even the anti-Obama "tea parties" flogged by Fox News last week had wider genuine grass-roots support than this so-called national organization. ...[M]ost straight citizens merely shrugged as gay families celebrated in Iowa and Vermont. There was no mass backlash. At ABC and CBS, the Vermont headlines didn't even make the evening news.

Let's leave aside Rich's partisan belittling of Fox News - the tea parties are a genuine and important demonstration of opposition by a large number of Americans, including yours truly, to Obama's trillions of spending for government expansion. (Read Steve Chapman at reason.com: "The scale of the federal response to the crises has come as a frightening surprise to many Americans, who suspect the cure will be worse, and less transitory, than the disease." And I suspect they're right.)

If we were not so intent on adopting an air of cultural superiority toward them, we might see that libertarian conservatives who distrust intrusive government and want it out of our wallets and our lives are exactly those with whom we should be engaging in dialogue.

Still, Rich is right that Americans seem to have turned a corner on the gay marriage issue. Alas, too late for California, thanks to our own activists' organizational surrender on state anti-gay initiatives in November 2008, in order to better support Obama and the Democratic Party (and not offend Obama's anti-gay minority constituency). But still a good harbinger for the future.

Rich is also right that the GOP still has a long way to go, with those he labels as the party's chief contenders in 2012, Romney, Palin and Gingrich, "now all more vehement anti-same-sex-marriage activists than Rick Warren." That's why I believe it's all the more important to be supportive of efforts by Log Cabin and the new GOProud to work toward change from within the Republican flanks. The pro-marriage equality speech at Log Cabin's convention last week by Steve Schmidt, the Republican political consultant who managed John McCain's campaign, was a good sign (see Jon Rauch's item, below).

But much more needs to be done. And liberal Democrats belittling these efforts isn't helpful.