Jon Rauch mentions his very good article on the vital, social importance of incrementalism in gay marriage. To that, I add a hearty Amen, and urge everyone to read it immediately.
But in mentioning one of the most important strains in the original thinking about how to achieve equality - what Jon calls "the family stream," a more conservative contrast to the liberal Stonewall civil rights stream - he winds up underarguing his own point. And in so doing, he makes a mistake too many people do -- undervaluing the landmark role that California played in gay marriage by taking a series of small, cautious local steps before making equality a statewide issue. California did not start with marriage or lawsuits It started with domestic partnership.
As I argued in California's Quiet Revolution, the landscape in the 1980s included no legal rights at all for same-sex couples as couples. While we had access, in California, to explicit contractual rights under our Supreme Court's landmark decision in Marvin v. Marvin, no law anywhere - not in California, not in the U.S., and not anywhere else on earth - recognized the relationships of same-sex couples.
That changed in the early 1980s, when the City of Berkeley began its first efforts to recognize "domestic partners." The original and unprecedented laws went into place in Berkeley in 1984, followed the next year by the City of West Hollywood.
None of these ordinances could have changed California's marriage law, and they did not purport to. They simply did at the local level what local governments can do - recognized that same-sex couples existed within their jurisdictions and had the same needs that opposite-sex couples did. Since they could not get married under state law, the local governments provided what recognition and rights they could. The revolution was that it was governments that were trying to treat same-sex couples fairly.
This local movement took a giant leap forward in 1986 when Thomas F. Coleman, Nora Baladerian and Christopher McCauley got the City of Los Angeles to create its Task Force on Family Diversity - which, for full disclosure, I served on. The point of the task force was to show that the notion of "family," traditionally limited in law to relationships of blood, marriage and adoption, included people - specifically same-sex couples - who were functioning families even though they could not meet the existing legal qualifications.
That task force is, in my (obviously biased) opinion, the fountainhead of Jon's family stream. It is what led to L.A.'s adoption of a domestic partnership ordinance in 1988, and that is what helped to put domestic partnership - and the awkward legal position of same-sex couples in the law -- on the map. And it was domestic partnership that caused the very slow but inevitable movement that has landed us in today's radically different legal world for same-sex couples.
Thus, I disagree with Jon's assertion that "Right off the bat, the political activists involved in same-sex marriage eschewed Burkean principles. . . " That may have been true of an awful lot of activists on both sides, probably the vast majority. But there were some visionaries - and Tom Coleman is one of the most savvy - who saw the value of taking small steps to begin a long journey.