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Over at Box Turtle Bulletin, Tim Kincaid has an interesting post ("A call for a nuanced view of religious leaders") about Joel Osteen, pastor of Houston's huge Lakewood Church, who gave an opening prayer at the inauguration of Annise Parker, the newly elected lesbian mayor of Houston. Osteen, a best-selling author whose uplifting Sunday service is broadcast nationwide, says he welcomes gays to his church but believes scripture elevates heterosexual marriage as best.

He's wrong, we may strongly believe, but Osteen, unlike Rick Warren, has never endorsed an anti-gay marriage initiative or signed an anti-gay declaration. So why was he lumped in with the worst of the religious right haters and condemned as an "anti-gay ridiculous person" and a "smiling bigot" recently by the popular leftist gay website Queerty?

As Kincaid writes of Osteen, "We can be, at times, too quick to denounce and drive away some who could in the future - or currently on some issues - be incredibly valuable allies if we only would let them." But it's so much more fun to shout "bigot bigot go away," isn't it. And, by the way, what exactly is the difference between Osteen's remarks and those of Barack Obama, who similarly cites scripture as the basis of his belief that marriage is only between a man and a woman, and gets standing ovations at HRC dinners?

The New York Times finally catches up with the backstory of the Uganda Anti-Homosexuality bill.

There is very little in the story that those of us who read Box Turtle Bulletin haven't known for months, though. Jim Burroway can't say it, but I can: The Times is graceless in failing to even mention the enormous work BTB has been doing in following this story at an exceptionally detailed (and accurate) level, and making the rest of us take notice. Perhaps the Times has, in fact, devoted some of its resources to investigating the underlying facts. But if so, it was essentially duplicating what Jim and the folks at BTB have already done, adding no more than a flourish or two of their own.

If you want to know what investigative journalism looks like today, and why the mainstream media is losing its credibility because of its own outsize vanity, visit BTB and check out their extensive and chilling archives on this story, "Slouching Towards Kampala" -- dating back to February of last year.

I'll jump in with a few new year's legislative-front predictions for 2010, which I suspect won't be well received by those who view the world through the lens of LGBT political lobbies and media. In short, don't expect much from Washington in the year ahead.

Having given us a "hate crimes" bill, Democrats feel that, for the most part, they've taken care of things. With elections approaching in November and the number of expected lost seats for Democrats mounting, purple state/district Democrats-already severely burned by succumbing to "Chicago-style" pressure to vote for an increasingly unpopular (and, in fact, truly dreadful) "health care reform" bill-have used up just about all their wiggle room among centrist and center-right voters.

Those who think that they will cast their lots for an Employment Non-Discrimination Act that includes (as LGBT activists insist it MUST) job protections for transgendered workers (ill-defined, despite the bill's verbosity on the matter, and still subject to scary charges about men in dresses exercising free-choice regarding restrooms) are delusional. It won't happen.

As for reforming or repealing the Defense of Marriage Act, sorry, that's a no-go, too. And for the same reasons-Democrats have pushed those beyond their left-liberal base as far as they dare with health care and mega-government-expanding "stimulus," and they must at least appear to be moving back toward the center. Moreover, when it comes to equality for same-sex spouses, the Obama administration has not exactly shown courage, or willingness to spend political capital (indeed, quite the opposite). Which shouldn't surprise anyone who was paying attention during the campaign.

The one possibility for progress is that repeal of "don't ask, don't tell" might be pushed through as part of a defense spending bill later this year. Given that a majority of Americans now seem to favor this, and it might be done relatively quietly, it's within the realm of possibility. That would certainly be welcome, but even John McCain was suggesting he'd consider repeal. Given what the "LGBT community" spent in terms of labor and dollars on behalf of electing this administration and Congress, and the promises we were made, it's slim pickings-if it happens at all.

As for the November elections, pollsters expect significant losses in the House (20 to 40 Democratic seats are widely mentioned) and the shift of several Democratic Senate seats to the GOP, restoring its filibuster. That's going to make the one-party strategy, which was always a terrible "all eggs in one basket" bet, even worse-for us, at least, if not for the Democratic operatives running the Democratic fundraising fronts know as LGBT rights organizations.

Anne Marie Schubert has got herself one uphill battle here in Sacramento. She is running to become a Superior Court judge, but she carries with her a burden that is unspeakably unfair. She is Frank Schubert's sister.

Her brother has become something of a brand-name among the anti-gay marriage crowd, not just in California but across the entire nation; he is the gold standard by which all future anti-gay campaigns will be judged, unbelievably successful in convincing voters that same-sex couples are intent on destroying marriage (by wanting to get married) and undermining religion, education, civil society and possibly the global financial superstructure.

Ms. Schubert seems like a fairly decent, run-of-the-mill judicial candidate with an adequate resume and what appears to be solid experience. It will be a shame if people cast their vote for or against her because of what her brother has done. She shouldn't be held responsible for the actions of other people - her brother or anyone else.

But she is a lesbian, and that's what happens to us all too frequently. People get agitated by the actions of one or two gay people somewhere or other, and then point to us as a group, claiming that we all are to blame for what those very few, very unique people have done, rather than judging us on what we, ourselves might do or be. We are tarred by associations we didn't even know we had.

That, of course, is what her brother is now making a career out of doing. The irony will be deep enough to swim in if Sacramento's mostly Democratic voters reject Ms. Schubert because of her brother's jihad. It's profoundly unfair to mischaracterize and maltreat her for her brother's actions in mischaracterizing and maltreating gay people across the country. But his actions do have consequences and spillover effects, not only for those gay people he doesn't know, but very possibly for one he actually does.

And so far I'm only talking about the damage he's done to his sister among those on the left. That's a drop in the bucket compared to what he's done in stirring up anti-gay passions (and they are passions) among the right, and particularly among religious believers who, due in large part to his efforts, are now deeply moved to vote because of concerns about homosexuality.

Of course, it's also entirely possible that Anne Marie's lesbianism and domestic partnership will be a non-issue among those voters, or that in the low profile local judicial race, her sexual orientation and marital (kind of) status will go unnoticed. That is now the best she can hope for.

Frank, too. He is trying hard to distance himself from his own venom and the natural consequences of his handiwork. "My activities in politics are mine alone - she doesn't have anything to do with them," he says.

Hey! He may have something there. My activities in politics, too, are mine alone, and I'm not responsible for the actions or beliefs of others, whether it's one employee at El Coyote Restaurant or some school in Massachusetts, or anyone who signed the absurd and irrelevant Beyond Same-Sex Marriage manifesto, or declaration, or whatever the hell it is. Or NAMBLA.

I suspect Ms. Schubert and I, and a whole lot of other lesbians and gay men, would be on exactly the same page about finding it wearying, and actually harmful to be constantly held responsible for burdens not of our own making. Perhaps she could talk to her brother about that.

Jon Rauch provides a typically excellent summary of the year in gay marriage, which I highly recommend. For my own part, I find I am focusing more and more, not on our own arguments in favor of marriage equality, but on the slow collapse of coherence among our opponents.

I am particularly fascinated by how much effort those who oppose marriage equality are putting into hiding themselves and their arguments from public scrutiny. The people in Washington state who signed petitions to get their initiative to ban even domestic partnerships on the ballot are demanding no one know their identities, and the National Organization for Marriage continues its crusade to keep the sources of its funding to itself. These do not look, to me, like people who are taking much pride in their cause.

Now the defenders of Prop. 8 in California are trying to prevent the court from televising the trial over whether Prop. 8 violates the U.S. Constitution. Like so many on the anti-gay right these days, they claim that they fear for their lives and livelihoods if they and their arguments are exposed to public scrutiny. Some witnesses say they won't even testify if the trial is televised.

I think it's time for some perspective here. Their melodramatic claims have nothing on the very real history of what lesbians and gay men have faced in order to fight for their rights. When their very existence is made criminal (as ours was), they may deserve a bit more sympathy. When police start harassing them in their daily lives (as they did for decades with gay men in particular), they'll be on to something worth complaining about. And when they can credibly claim they are beaten, maimed and even murdered for their positions (as we are, even today, for simply being homosexual), they might have a respectable position. Until then, there is simply no comparison between the imprisonment, indignity and deaths suffered in the fight for gay equality throughout generations and the few, exaggerated claims made by NOM and their fellow travelers.

People who believe they are right should be willing to own the morality of their cause, even when that means taking very real, sometimes severe risks such as going to jail, or even being killed -- neither of which anyone opposed to gay equality can truthfully claim. That's what lesbians and gay men have had to do to get where we are. Perhaps that's harsh, but I'm having a very hard time seeing how name-calling really counts as a similar sort of abuse, or how risking some loss of government funds equates with actual peril in a way that would justify refusing to air arguments in a public forum like a court of law.

As if our history weren't enough to shame the whining out of our opponents today, try this: The simple act of getting married has resulted in two men facing imprisonment for 14 years, if not more. Their marriage is criminal for violating the laws against "public indecency."

That's in Malawi, of course, but it illustrates an important point. This is how upside-down the debate is. For heterosexuals, marriage provides a level of social and constitutional privacy for their sexual activities. Once married, they are free to conduct their sexual lives as they wish, and it is rude if not illegal to intrude into those actions against their wishes. For same-sex couples, though, the simple act of getting married somehow exposes their sexual conduct in such a way that the ceremony amounts to public indecency -- without any need even to claim there was a sexual act. In Malawi, it seems, we don't even need to have sex to be indecent.

That is the set of mind we are trying to expose, and we need to do that publicly. But our opponents don't want to have a public debate. That leaves me with the distinct impression our opponents are afraid of nothing more than their own illogic. They want and need to hide because their arguments don't hold up. Of course they lack the pride and the drive of our supporters -- they don't have anything to be proud of. The discriminatory laws they are trying to maintain have no real justification; they are supported by nothing more than fear of homosexual couples.

That's a ludicrous thing to be afraid of, so they have to concoct what they think is a more respectable veneer. But, as with other forms of prejudice, in the end they are victims only of their own fevered imaginations.

That doesn't require a court's protective order; it requires some soul searching.

It's easy to focus on the homophobia of Andy Martin's pathetic campaign for the Illinois Senate seat. He claims to have a "solid rumor" that the front-runner, Mark Kirk, is a homosexual, and is demanding that Kirk "tell Republican voters the truth."

But I see something else at work. Martin clearly has both feet planted firmly in a time when a candidate's homosexuality, real or imagined, was a problem among almost all voters. That's not entirely unrealistic. There are still areas of the country with a large majority of voters who cling to outdated notions about homosexuality. More important for Martin's strategy, there are a lot of GOP primary voters who believe such things.

The first problem for Martin is his apparent inability to see that the ground is shifting underneath him. Homosexuality, which used to be a problem is now overshadowed by the problem of open homophobia. The problem he thinks he's responding to is, itself, now seen by a lot of voters as a problem.

Even the Illinois GOP knows that unadorned public homophobia is now more of a problem than a candidate's homosexuality, which is why they had to distance themselves from him. And that is the second, and more important battle that Martin is having. The GOP is still stuck with its own position that homosexuals should be discriminated against in the law; that it is good for society to discriminate. But they have to downplay the natural effect of their policy choices, even as they continue those policies.

I can't say I have much sympathy for the GOP, whose public positions have created the Martins of the world. It's always difficult to watch people struggle with their conflicts, but the GOP can't credibly claim they aren't responsible for Martin's belief that a homophobic attack would get him somewhere in a GOP primary.

But from a broader perspective, it's a bit agonizing to observe the waste of time and effort. As more and more openly lesbian and gay candidates are elected, sometimes by broad majorities, the GOP is depleting its own credibility as its policies continue to raise hopes among people like Andy Martin. He had every right to expect his party would look favorably on his mean-spirited stunt. At least as important, the GOP is tacitly encouraging such attacks, whether or not a GOP candidate is actually homosexual. Whether or not Kirk is gay, the fact is that he is not alone in being subject to rumors like this. Rumors of homosexuality (or of many other things) are not required to be true to be accepted. As long as the GOP believes that homosexuality is, itself, wrong, its candidates will be paraticularly subject to this kind of smear.

This seems to me a good story to sum up the year: complicated emotions, needless harm, yet in the end hope for all concerned.

I don't know anything about rugby, or Gareth Thomas, but his soon-to-be ex-wife's understanding and uplifting statement about their relationship and its end because of his homosexuality distills my own feelings throughout 2009.

It all begins and ends with the closet. But for this anachronistic social convention that is as useful today as a hitching post, Thomas would not have needed to try and convince first himself, and then someone of the opposite sex that he was straight. It is not enough, in this scheme, that we deceive ourselves; heterosexuals, too, have to be equally and everlastingly drawn into the fraud, some of them at the most intimate level.

Lies so close to the core of our human nature cannot hold for long. In earlier times, spouses like Jemma Thomas also knew the truth. Perhaps they expected less of marriage, or were equally caught up in maintaining the charade. The lies we tell ourselves are the ones we have the greatest stake in.

But each of these experiences helps us better see marriage, and better value it. That is what I hope the movement for gay marriage is adding to society as a whole: a reaffirmation of marriage's worth, of love at its best and commitment at its most forthright.

Yes, this is about the law's failure to recognize our relationships, and we have a very direct interest in that. It certainly involves our self-interest.

But who can speak more authoritatively about the value of something than those who do not have it? Of course we want marital equality because the constitution promises us the equal protection of the laws. But marriage is unlike any other constitutional right, because it involves two people, and in the real world one of them is likely to be heterosexual. Whatever heterosexuals think they are encouraging by either denying homosexuality exists, or insisting that homosexuals hide that fact, they are, in fact, doing something they surely do not intend: assuring that some of their own will be deceived, not in some general sense, but every day of their lives, until the predictable revelation. They are, in fact, using the force of law to guarantee that fate for some of their children.

The whole enterprise of gay rights has been to deconstruct this fabric of insincerity. No one is well served, gay or straight, by making us bear false witness against ourselves. In coming out, Gareth Thomas was doing no more than admitting what could no longer be denied; his regret was not for personal wrongdoing, but for the wrongdoing he felt the world demanded of him.

Jemma has the grace and the pragmatism to recognize that while coming out is hard for both of them, it's better than the closet. Like many other prominent wives during the last decade, she has had to endure the same indignity lesbians and gay men do when the truth can no longer be denied. It is these spouses who are our natural allies; who sees more clearly that heterosexuals have a very direct interest in having us be honest with ourselves and with them, and to form relationships based on that honesty?

Despite her own ordeal, she is ready to continue her own needlessly interrupted life, and expresses her continuing love and good wishes to Gareth.

That is a fine note on which to end 2009. Love and good wishes to all of our readers here at IGF as well.

(H/T to Towleroad)