More on Sontag.

Today's L.A. Times contains a commentary titled "Susan Sontag and a Case of Curious Silence," which notes:

It seems that editors at what are, arguably, the nation's most respected (and liberal) newspapers believe that one personal detail cannot be mentioned in even the most complete biographies - being a lesbian....

The New York Times and the Los Angeles Times found ample room to discuss Sontag's cancer and subsequent mastectomy, which were not seen as lurid details but as necessary information in understanding the work of the author of "Illness as Metaphor." ... However, her relationships with women and how they shaped her thoughts on gay culture and the larger world of outsiders and outlaws (a Sontag fascination) were omitted.

Meanwhile, the conservative Frontpagemagzine.com characterizes Sontag as "a doyenne of radical chic." Yet as a leading light of the intellectual left, her decision to remain closeted raises questions in need of answers.

And aside from Sontag's own motives, why would the liberal media choose to aid in her cover-up? Among the commentators (and tormentors) on yesterday's blog item, "Pillar" offers this:

If a public figure such as Sontag (as opposed to a nebbish congressional staffer who is not a public figure) wanted the liberal media to keep quiet about her being a lesbian, that's worth noting and asking why she didn't want to be identified as gay. Did she think it would have impeded here being taken seriously as a leading anti-American polemicist? If so, doesn't that tell us something about the left and its unacknowledged homophobia (just as quotas tell us something about the left and its unacknowledged racism)?

That's about as good a guess as any I can come up with right now.

Update: Andrew Sullivan weighs in on the brouhaha, writing:

Sontag understood that her lesbianism might limit her appeal in a homophobic culture - even on the extreme left, where she comfortably lived for decades. That was her prerogative. But that's no reason for the media to perpetuate untruths after her death.

Occasionally forthcoming about her relationships, Sontag would then retreat into denial. But in covering public figures in this day and age, the media shouldn't treat being gay as something so "sensitive" it can only be mentioned with the figure's expressed authorization (which is moot, in any event, when that figure is deceased).
--Stephen H. Miller

Susan Sontag and the Liberal Media Closet.

A brouhaha is brewing over the fact that such liberal bastions as the New York Times, the L.A. Times and Washington Post failed to mention that recently departed author and "public intellectual" Susan Sontag had lived for many years in a lesbian relationship with photographer Annie Leibovitz that was not, shall we say, kept secret. According to an item in the N.Y. Daily News:

Don't look for gay ladies in the Gray Lady. The New York Times paid tribute to the late Susan Sontag yesterday with a beautifully written obituary, plus a moving tribute by Charles McGrath, totaling almost 4,000 words. But apparently that wasn't enough space to mention that she was the partner of celebrity portraitist Annie Leibovitz for 20 years.

Writes reporter Steve Koval on the Houston Voice's blog:

Whatever Sontag's reasons for remaining coy about her sexual orientation, why is it that in 2004, the obituary of a famous gay (or bisexual) social critic gets de-gayed?

He then quotes gay firebrand Larry Kramer defending Sontag's public silence on the subject; in Kramer's words:

"Susan is...beyond being a lesbian. I know I'm probably saying something very politically incorrect, but, except for the fact that she has affairs with women, she doesn't really fit into that category.... What she is more than anything else is an 'Intellectual,' with a capital 'I.'

Says Koval, "With all due respect to Larry Kramer, I don't know what 'beyond being a lesbian' means. Apparently, the New York Times and other straight publications do."

The Miami Herald and Chicago Tribune, by the way, were among a number of newspapers that did refer to Leibovitz as Sontag's "longtime companion."

For those unfamiliar with Sontag, according to ABC News:

Writing in the 1960s about the Vietnam War she declared "the white race is the cancer of human history." Days after the Sept. 11, 2001, terrorist attacks, she criticized U.S. foreign policy and offered backhanded praise for the hijackers.

But when it came to gay equality, she kept mostly silent. Even her famous essay on gay men and "camp" sensibility, Paul Varnell notes, was full of caustic observations:

"Homosexuals have pinned their integration into society on promoting the aesthetic sense," she wrote. "Camp is the solvent of morality. It neutralizes moral indignation. ..." A decade later Sontag viciously attacked Camp and its aesthetic sensibility because it was corrupting and "the ethical and cultural issues it raises have become serious, even dangerous." But for those who read carefully, that was her view from the beginning.

So what does this all add up to? I'm not sure. I don't believe in outing, but if a very public person is living openly in a same-sex relationship that's widely recognized within her social circle, then keeping that fact out of her obituary seems, to me, unacceptable. Yet apparently many on the liberal left are quite willing to play "let's pretend" when it comes to one of their own.

It’s All About Sex.

As far as we've come since the sexually repressed America portrayed in the movie "Kinsey," ignorance about sexuality continues to fuel much of the antipathy towards gays in this country. Evidence: Rick Sincere (who recently launched his own blog), alerts me to an item defending gay unions on the blog of a straight Republican, Tony Iovino, who observes:

When we see a heterosexual couple, we see them as Dick and Lynn, individual adults who are a couple. We don't think of them as a couple engaging in sex. Think about it -- what if the first thing you thought of when you saw the Cheneys holding hands on a stage was their sexual activities? You'd gag. As you would with just about any couple, other than Jennifer Aniston & Brad Pitt. But when we see gay couples, we are immediately focused on their sexuality, like you would be drawn to the hair of someone wearing a giant orange Afro wig. And it freaks us out.

That is, I think, the crux of the matter -- the deep sense of unease associated with gay sexuality, seen as legitimatized and promoted by legal recognition of gay unions, along with the strong fear of unleashing sexual anarchy if traditional is altered too rapidly. In any event, chanting "bigots" and "haters" and feeling smugly superior won't make the problem go away.

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Bringing Down the House.

Long-time anti-gay neo-con Midge Decter shows she's still full of venom in "Civil Unions: Compromise or Surrender?", in the newsletter Imprimis. Decter fumes:

The term "civil marriage" or "civil union" has become a euphemism for both the legal and social legitimation of homosexuality....

The right to legal marriage that they are demanding is not about them - it is about the rest of us. It is, and is meant to be, a spit in the eye of the way we live. And whatever the variety of efforts to oppose it - another law or even a whole set of laws, let's say, or a constitutional amendment - none of it will matter unless and until all the nice and decent people in America begin to understand that we are in a crisis, and it must be up to them to sustain, and with all good cheer defend, the way they lead their lives....

For it is not compromise that the homosexual rights movement is after. Nor do they even want the standing in the community that heterosexuals have. They are radicals. What they want is not a room of their own; they want to bring the whole damned house down.

As nice as it would be to simply dismiss such vitriol, it's important to realize that this is what a lot of folks actually think, and not just members of the fundamentalist Christian "religious right."

Against the Bay Area’s Tide.

Lesbian writer and columnist Beth Elliott, on her webpage, shares some sharp observations about being a nonlefty lesbian in the San Franscisco Bay Area. For example, she writes:

A young friend doing the standard turning-up of her nose and saying she hoped Bush couldn't get anything done. I retorted that, for her sake, she should hope he succeeded at giving her a shot at a private retirement account. She immediately launched into a tirade about how she, working McJobs while going up against unemployed dot-com transplants with only her fresh bachelor's degree, really needed the money she was being taxed to pay for other people's Social Security benefits. My point exactly, I confirmed.

Bitingly, she also notes of the recent death of anti-gay footballer Reggie White, at age 43, that:

A lot of Reggie White's bigot friends have been trying to pass of as scientific research the notion that "the homosexual lifestyle" is so destructive that our average life span is...43. Far be it from me to make sweeping statements about anybody else's karma . . .

Worth bookmarking.
--Stephen H. Miller

Navigating a Marriage Trajectory.

Our own Jonathan Rauch scores with an important Wall Street Journal op-ed today, "Saying No to 'I Do'." He writes:

Gay couples and their children (more than a fourth of households headed by same-sex couples have kids, according to the 2000 census) need the legal protections and the caregiving tools - not, mostly, "benefits" - that marriage uniquely provides. Gay individuals, coupled or not, need the prospect of marriage, with its sustaining promise of a destination for love and of a stable home in a welcoming community. In 13 states the dream of marriage has, for gay Americans, receded far over the horizon.

So, what is to be done? Rauch continues:

This year may be remembered as the time when civil unions established themselves as the compromise of choice. For an indicator, watch whether there is an outcry if state courts narrow the scope of the new amendments to allow civil unions and other partner programs. My guess is that few people will fuss.

One reason is the long-term trajectory of public opinion. The fact that 60% of voters support some legal provision for same-sex unions represents a sea-change. Still more significant are the issue's demographics. Americans of middle age or older overwhelmingly oppose same-sex marriage, which they view as a contradiction, if not an abomination. Among people under 30, the situation is reversed....

Rauch concludes, "I am dismayed by the [state] amendments' passage, but I can't complain about the process. Nov. 2 showed that our federalist system is working exactly as it should, and it made the case for federal intervention weaker than ever."
--Stephen H. Miller

Saying No to ‘I Do’

First published December 27, 2004, in The Wall Street Journal.

President Reagan, ever the optimist, loved a story about a boy who yelps with delight at a pile of dung, digging into it eagerly with both hands. "With all this manure," says the boy, "there must be a pony in here somewhere!" Nearly two months after the election, gay Americans and supporters of same-sex marriage - count me among both groups - are digging hard, but still no pony.

When people ask how I feel about the election, I tell them that this must be what it's like to be worked over in a dark alley by a couple of loan sharks. Gay couples and their children (more than a fourth of households headed by same-sex couples have kids, according to the 2000 census) need the legal protections and the care-giving tools - not, mostly, "benefits" - that marriage uniquely provides. Gay individuals, coupled or not, need the prospect of marriage, with its sustaining promise of a destination for love and of a stable home in a welcoming community. In 13 states the dream of marriage has, for gay Americans, receded far over the horizon.

On Nov. 2, 11 out of 11 states passed constitutional referendums banning same-sex marriage. Another two such amendments had already passed earlier in the year. Many of the amendments also ban or impinge upon "civil unions" and domestic-partner benefits: programs that provide some of the perquisites of marriage for same-sex couples. As striking as the amendments' clean sweep were the lopsided margins by which they prevailed. The public was not just firm, it was vehement.

So now what? In the near term, the new state amendments will initiate a round of court tussles as gay organizations and couples bring suit against some or most of the new state amendments. Any couple can sue (two lesbian couples in Oklahoma already have), so anything could happen; but the organizations, if wise, will focus their challenges on the amendments that seem to ban civil unions or domestic-partner benefits. That's good politics, spotlighting the unnecessary and vindictive overbreadth of some state amendments. It is also the more winnable battle, since the public's vehemence on Nov. 2 will make judges wary of overturning bans on gay marriage per se. My guess is that some amendments will run into trouble on technicalities (as Louisiana's, passed in September, has already done), and a number will be narrowed inscope, but most if not all of the bans on same-sex marriage will stand.

How the election will affect the proposed U.S. constitutional ban on same-sex marriage - which failed to win the requisite two-thirds majority in either house of Congress earlier this year - is harder to read. The triumph of all 13 state amendments, plus the Republicans' net gain of four very conservative senators, will increase enthusiasm for a national amendment at the "grasstops" level (that is, among politicians, activists, and other conservative leaders). On the other hand, the passage of those same 13 amendments, plus the fact that all but seven states have now banned same-sex marriage statutorily or constitutionally or both, plus the prospect of President Bush's appointing the next several Supreme Court justices - all of that subtracts urgency from the issue, probably reducing enthusiasm for the amendment at the grass-roots level (that is, among voters, who are typically reluctant to tamper with the Constitution). I would bet more on the latter vector, but who knows?

The consensus has shifted rapidly, meanwhile, toward civil unions. The 2004 exit polls showed 35% of voters supporting them (and another 25% for same-sex marriage). Particularly after the Nov. 2 debacle, civil unions look to many gay-rights advocates like the more attainable goal. It is not lost on them that Vermont's civil-unions law and California's partnership program have proved surprisingly uncontroversial. For their part, social conservatives increasingly, if grudgingly, accept civil unions as deflecting what they regard as an attack on marriage. John Kerry endorsed civil unions, and in October Mr. Bush accepted them, saying, "I don't think we should deny people rights to a civil union, a legal arrangement, if that's what a state chooses to do."

This year may be remembered as the time when civil unions established themselves as the compromise of choice. For an indicator, watch whether there is an outcry if state courts narrow the scope of the new amendments to allow civil unions and other partner programs. My guess is that few people will fuss.

One reason is the long-term trajectory of public opinion. The fact that 60% of voters support some legal provision for same-sex unions represents a sea-change. Still more significant are the issue's demographics. Americans of middle age or older overwhelmingly oppose same-sex marriage, which they view as a contradiction, if not an abomination. Among people under 30, the situation is reversed; in a Los Angeles Times poll in March, fully three-fourths of under-30 respondents favored gay marriage or civil unions, with the larger group (44%) supporting marriage proper. Young Americans tend to view the ban on same-sex marriage as simple discrimination, and non-discrimination is their ethical pole star.

Not even a U.S. constitutional ban on same-sex marriage, I think, would hange their view. Indeed, a federal ban would lead many of these younger people to shun marriage as a discriminatory club that they'd prefer not to join. Cultural change, as George F. Will likes to remind conservatives, is autonomous. People who hope to settle this issue peremptorily, either with a constitutional ban or a Supreme Court mandate, are dreaming. The public's realization that gay people cannot reasonably choose straight unions has shattered the cultural consensus on marriage, and building a new consensus, whether around gay marriage or civil unions or something else, will require years of political skirmishing and individual soul-searching. As Robert Frost said, the only way out is through.

The public is right to want to avert another abortion-style culture war, right to want to move deliberately (in all senses of the word), and right to resist being hustled toward an all-or-nothing national policy. The best chance of averting a culture war is to localize the issue by leaving it to the states, letting them go their own way at their own speed. Between the court-ordered legalization of gay marriage in Massachusetts, the elation and outrage over San Francisco's gay weddings, and the crushing repudiation of same-sex matrimony on Nov. 2, Americans have been whiplashed in 2004. What the country needs is time to sit and think.

Mercifully, we may now get some time. Republicans' continued control of Supreme Court nominations makes it nearly unimaginable - and it was always unlikely - that the court will overrule the states on gay marriage. The Supreme Court recently sidestepped an opportunity to intervene in Massachusetts' gay marriages, and the election returns will give lower federal courts second thoughts about butting in. The enactment of those 13 state amendments demonstrates that popular sovereignty is alive and well in the states. I am dismayed by the amendments' passage, but I can't complain about the process. Nov. 2 showed that our federalist system is working exactly as it should, and it made the case for federal intervention weaker than ever.

More Doubts About LCR.

I'm not a lawyer, but it does seem that doubts are rising over the lawsuit by the national office of the Log Cabin Republicans seeking to overturn the "don't ask, don't tell" military gay ban without any named plaintiffs, when there is already a competing suit underway by the Servicemembers Legal Defense Team regarded as far more promising, on behalf of 12 gay men and women expelled from the military (see the Washington Blade's "Experts Fault Log Cabin Lawsuit").

Meanwhile, Gay Patriot West asks why the national LCR is suing the Bush administration instead of working to find ways to work with the GOP, and to promote the GOP among gays, which might help distinguish the group from all the other liberal gay advocacy lobbies.

The Next Campaign.

Why did Bush do so well with the over-60 crowd? Scott Turow, writing in the Washington Post's Sunday Outlook section ("A Dominant GOP? How So?") finds gay marriage, even apart from "moral values," can't be dismissed as a significant factor. Citing analysis by Mitofsky International, he asks why men in the 60-and-over group supported Bush by 60 to 39 over Kerry:

Mitofsky looked at the issues that might have keyed those different responses. Older voters did not cite "moral values" any more often than other Americans (22 percent in general, 21 percent among the over-60s). But three other issues seemed to cut in the president's favor with this age group: gay marriage, resistance to the idea that government should do more to solve problems, and Bush's handling of the economy. Of the three, Mitofsky said, gay marriage mattered most. In short, Bush's key success was with older -- and old-fashioned -- male voters.

Today's older voters' opposition to gay relationships stems from the intense antipathy toward homosexuality that permeated society as they came of age (and among men, the belief that male homsexuality was a threat to their masculine self-identity). In other words, these voters didn't become anti-gay as they aged; they just brought their prejudices with them.

Turow notes, "Time will take a heavier toll on the older group." Indeed it will. Which is why the tactic of using gay marriage to ignite older voters will, if deployed in future years, produce diminishing returns.

Word to the GOP wise: Be wary of fighting the next war (or campaign) with the tactics of the last. But it looks like the Arnold bashers on the right, going nuts over the Governator's call for a more inclusive GOP, may have to learn this the hard way.

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