Civil Unions as ‘Slippery Slope.’

IGF gets mentioned in an anti-gay marriage op-ed, from the Jan. 8 Minneapolis Star-Tribune. Charles H. Darrell of Minnesota for Marriage/Minnesota Family Council takes note of Dale Carpenter's argument that civil unions are an incremental step that will help pave the way for full marriage equality. Now, if only we could convince more gay activists of this!

More. Guess there's some confusion on ends and means. Commenter "Mickie" gets it, though:

[I]n many (not all) states, demanding full marriage through the courts has breed a backlash that led to state constitutional amendments that ban both marriage and civil unions. Whereas states that have instead gone the legislative route for civil unions, such as Connecticut, have not faced such as draconian backlash. And before too long their electorates will be poised to pass full marriage for same-sex couples.

The United Kindom has civil partnerships that are not marriage, but everyone is now calling them marriage. That's smart strategy. Not dumb politics.

Hope that helps clarify things. For more, read Steve Swayne's latest.

Gay Marriage and the Generational Shift.

Most high school seniors support further restrictions on abortion, but are twice as likely as adults to support legal recognition of gay marriages. Those findings come from a highly regarded national poll by researchers at Hamilton College and Zogby International. It's further evidence that (1) we'll win the gay marriage fight in time, and (2) abortion and gay legal equality are not linked concepts except in the minds of certain activists.

Anti-Gay Conspiracy Theories: The Latest.

The anti-gay right's latest bit of dangerous nonsense gets dissected by Jon Rowe over at Positive Liberty. At issue: a new book by David Kupelian titled The Marketing of Evil. In the section on gay rights, Kupelian suggests that the gay movement is following a "master plan" that was spelled out in a book by gay PR strategists back in 1990. That long-since out of print work is After the Ball: How America Will Conquer Its Fear and Hatred of Gays in the '90s, by Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen.

The funny thing is, while After the Ball was a smart book about using the mainstream media to counter negative stereotypes and promote honest representations of gay lives, it was dismissed by many self-styled progressive gay activists at the time as a "sell out" that advocated "assimilation" and substituted a "marketing strategy" for radical, grass-roots coalition building on the left. That right-wing conspiracy buffs think it was some sort of master plan would actually be funny if it weren't so hateful.

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All Brokeback, All the Time…

I'm not going to keep posting what are likely to be gazillions of interesting pieces on the film, but here are two before I sign off.

Gene Shalit's pan calls the film "wildly overpraised" and labels Jack Twist, played by Jake Gyllenhaal, a "sexual predator." What's the Today show got against this movie, anyway? Actually, Shalit has written supportively about his gay son, but clearly he still has issues with what gay men do under the covers. (Here's a link to view his review.)

On a more positive note, New York Daily News columnist Jack Mathews writes:

Like "Curb Your Enthusiasm's" Larry David, who voiced his tongue-in-cheek objections to "Brokeback" in a recent New York Times op-ed piece, I felt that "cowboys would have to lasso me, drag me into the theater and tie me to the seat" to make me watch a pair of range riders steam up a pup tent.

But I've now seen the movie three times (twice with my wife, if you have to know) and it is one of the most devastating Hollywood love stories of all time.

No word on whether Larry David was ever lassoed into the theater, though.
-- Stephen Miller

Anti-AIDS or Anti-Sex?

I don't get this protest. The AIDS Healthcare Foundation of Los Angeles is decrying this Viagra ad. "What are you doing on New Year's Eve?" a smiling gray-haired man asks in a full-pager that ran in the Wall Street Journal on Dec. 29. The text reads: "Fact: Viagra can help guys with all degrees of erectile dysfunction-from mild to severe."

"Not only does sending this reckless message contribute to the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, but it is also part of a pattern of irresponsible direct-to-consumer advertising by the drug industry," said Michael Weinstein, president of the AIDS group.

Either they're anti-sex on New Year's Eve, or just reflexively anti the drug industry (or the Wall Street Journal, or capitalism, or fun, or...). I'm sure Viagra is misused, by gays and others, as a party drug. But it has also enabled up to millions of older men to enjoy sexual relations again. The AIDS activists merely seem churlish.

Gay Marriage, Less Welfare.

A report on how same-sex marriage would be economically advantageous to New Hampshire, by the Institute for Gay & Lesbian Strategic Studies, finds that "savings from means-tested public benefit programs" would come to $400,000 annually. The report doesn't go into details, but it seems the explanation is that with marriage (as opposed to shacking up), household incomes are viewed by the state as combined, making it more difficult to qualify for public assistance benefits.

Part of the value of marriage is that it legalizes a relationship of mutual support, so those who might individually fall on hard times have a partner they can lean on. And that's a good thing. As long as couples actually do get married, which requires a hefty dose of internalized social expectation in addition to legal equality.

More: Readers provide context regarding the New Hampshire marriage fight, in our posted comments.

Twisted Lives, Bad Law.

Yet another religious conservative exposed. Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive! Yes, Pastor Latham is a sad hypocrite (or at least a lost soul mired in fear and self-loathing ). But why should anyone be subjected to a night in jail (prior to release on bail) and face up to a year in prison just for asking another male to join him in his hotel room for sex?

I guess trying to engage a prostitute is the alleged "crime," but I don't think it's routine for males soliciting sex from females (even if they turn out to be plainclothed cops) to face such draconian treatment. Welcome to supposedly post-sodomy law America!

And yes, I realize that Pastor Latham no doubt supported anti-prostitution and anti-sodomy laws, too.

More: The arrest occurred outside a gay resort, as noted in more detail in the posted comments.

Update and clarification: From the AP account, it seems the matter isn't about allegedly soliciting a male prostitute, just soliciting oral sex to occur in a hotel room. Welcome to Oklahoma, where apparently the Supreme Court's Lawrence ruling (voiding sodomy laws) doesn't hold.

Pastor Latham, a member of the Southern Baptist Convention's executive committee, claims the police are lying about the sex request. If that defense doesn't seem plausible, will his lawyers rely on Lawrence? Stay tuned.

Roundup: Still More ‘Brokeback’ Yet Again…

Dale Carpenter's newly posted critique of Brokeback Mountain has provoked spirited debate in gay papers where it's been publshed. My own supportive views toward the film have already been stated, but here are some other interesting takes.

Guest blogger Ross Douthat of the Atlantic, on Andrew Sullivan's site, has positive things to say but also argues that:

The straight men are all either strutting oafs, bitter bigots like Jack Twist's father, or "nice-guy" weaklings like Alma's second husband, whose well-meaning effeminacy contrasts sharply with Ennis's rugged manliness. Jack and Ennis are the only "real men" in the story, and their love is associated with the high country and the vision of paradise it offers-a world of natural beauty and perfect freedom, of wrestling matches and campfires and naked plunges into crystal rivers-and a world with no girls allowed. Civilization is women and babies and debts and fathers-in-law and bosses; freedom is the natural world, and the erotic company of men. It's an old idea of the pre-Christian world come round again-not that gay men are real men too; but that real men are gay.

Blogger Tim Hulsey is critical of some of the critics, observing that:

David Letterman in particular has conducted a one-man crusade against the "gay cowboy movie," and Nathan Lane famously performed a minstrel-show Broadway parody of Brokeback on the Today show.

That the openly gay Lane would attack the film is less surprising than it would seem: I suspect that gay men who have adopted an ironic "camp" sensibility as a personal defense mechanism will prove especially resistant to the film. When I saw Brokeback in D.C.'s Dupont Circle, one young gay man heckled the screen, Rocky Horror style. He sounded like the sort of fellow who was beaten throughout high school, and who learned that a withering wit can be the best defense of the powerless. In a strange way, he seemed to belong on the screen with Jack and Ennis.

And finally, this piece by a gay escort is surprisingly sad, as he predicts a rise in his clientele:

Students graduate, soldiers return to citizenry, and so the one-shot lovers must say goodbye. And like Jack and Ennis, many of my clients went on to pass year after wistful year in a life nature never truly intended. Until something happened. ...

Ostensible business trips to the coast will be scheduled, where men like me lie in wait. After the second or third time a man trucks back home to International Falls from the multiplex, and then maybe the gay bar, in Duluth, the family computer's potential to track down his bible camp paramour may prove too tempting. Men will take risks after seeing this film.

Which may, I suppose, lead back to Carpenter's concerns about hurt wives and abandoned kids (or alternatively, liberated souls now free to love). But whatever your response, a film that provokes reactions this strong is a force to be reckoned with, I reckon.

Brokeback and Straight Neurosis.

TV's Larry David won't be seeing Brokeback Mountain. He says, in fact,

cowboys would have to lasso me, drag me into the theater and tie me to the seat, and even then I would make every effort to close my eyes and cover my ears.

But rest assured, some of his best friends are gay. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

Meanwhile, in Britain's The Guardian, John Patterson remarks that the American western "has always throbbed with latent homoeroticism." And that Brokeback

wouldn't be in the least controversial...were America not unimaginably neurotic and puritanical about sex, straight or gay, in the first place.

He could call Larry David as his first witness.

More: Stephen Hunter, the Washington Post's movie critic, presents a similar examination in a piece titled Out in the West: Reexamining A Genre Saddled With Subtext."

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