In one of the most bizarre arguments against state recognition
of same-sex marriages, social conservative Melanie Scarborough
reaches for her pen
and writes:
permitting individuals of the same sex to describe their
relationships as marriage gives them a right not extended to
heterosexuals, for whom "marriage" is very narrowly defined.
Although a man and a woman may legally wed, the law does not
consider the marriage valid unless it is consummated .... But
unless the relationship includes the one act defining marital union
... the question is moot; homosexual marriage is physically
impossible.
Now, the assertion that marriage is and can only be
"consummated" and thus made legal by vaginal intercourse, or else
it isn't marriage, is circular in the extreme. Scarborough is also
implying that marriage is as marriage always was, which is
ridiculous. Women are no longer property, and marriages (legal
ones, at any rate) are no longer polygamous.
And while I haven't read the marriage laws in all 50 states, I
know that two people are considered married, with all the legal
rights and obligations, without producing evidence of a broken
hymen - and that particularly among the elderly, where many
late-in-life marriages are companionate, it's a good thing that no
bloody sheet need be produced.
It seems that many social conservatives are clearly losing it,
and not in a good way.
More. And let's not fail to take note of
conservative columnist (and sometimes Culture Watch reader and
commenter) Maggie Gallagher, who
predicts:
Polyamorists, Muslims, and breakaway heretical Mormons can
expect to find at a minimum new comfort in this sweeping moral
support (if not yet legal support) for the dignity of their own
favored family relationships, since the right to marry is the right
to have one's family relationship officially recognized and
accorded equal dignity.
Oh dear, it's that old slippery slope again. But to paraphrase
Jon Rauch, gays are not fighting for a right that no Americans now
legally have (to multiple marriages, or "to marry everybody"), just
a right that most Americans have ("to marry somebody").
Furthermore. Liberal columnist E.J. Dionne
writes in the Washington Post:
As it happens, I am one of the millions of Americans whose minds
have changed on this issue. Like many of my fellow citizens, I was
sympathetic to granting gay couples the rights of married people
but balked at applying the word "marriage" to their unions.
"That word and the idea behind it," I wrote 13 years ago, "carry
philosophical and theological meanings that are getting
increasingly muddled and could become more so if it were applied
even more broadly.
Like a lot of people, I decided I was wrong. What moved me were the
conservative arguments for gay marriage put forward by the writers
Jonathan Rauch, Andrew Sullivan and New York Times columnist David
Brooks.
They see society as having a powerful interest in building respect
for long-term commitment and fidelity in sexual relationships and
that gay marriage underscores how important commitment is.
Prohibiting members of one part of our population from making a
public and legal commitment to each other does not strengthen
marriage; it weakens it.