While it's hard not to be heart-broken over Maine voters rolling
back marriage equality in one state where it was legislatively (not
judicially) created, there are some key lessons that might be
learned. Or not, more likely.
On marriage, the "M" word remains our biggest hurdle, no thanks
to a "progressive" president who still reiterates his belief that
marriage is only between a man and a woman, which anti-equality
activists certainly
make use of, and an LGBT movement that responds with "Thank
you, sir, may I have another."
While
all-but-marriage partnerships may just survive in Washington
State, advocates face the hard truth that U.S. voters remain
unwilling to grant us marriage equality in the vast majority of
states.
Great Britain doesn't use the "M" word for all but marriage-they
use "civil partnerships"-and many European nations that now have
marriage equality first went through a period of all but marriage.
We may have to as well (with the stipulation that the federal
Defense of Marriage Act be amended to give equal rights to all but
marriage partnerships recognized by the states-and even
that remains a huge political hurdle, despite Democratic
congressional majorities, which are sure to shrink in two years
time-tick, tock, tick, tock).
Skipping "all but marriage" and demanding the "M" word may make
for rousing protests, but at some point you have to admit that,
when voters have the final say, it's a failed strategy, barring a
sea change in popular opinion.
In the political contests, it's not all gloom. Bob McDonnell,
the new GOP governor of Virginia, may be a Christian conservative,
but he barely mentioned social issues in his campaign (while his
Democratic opponent, Creigh Deeds, lambasted McDonnell for being
against women's equality in a 20-year old master's thesis, which
was also anti-gay, but that point was not used by Deeds.) Both
Deeds and McDonnell had voted in the Virginia legislature for a
successful state amendment banning same-sex marriage, although
Deeds receive all the organizational LGBT endorsements. But
McDonnell, while avoiding social issues (other than declaring his
present support for women in the workplace) ran a low tax,
contained-government campaign. And that's why he won, with some
Republican
and libertarian gay support.
I haven't followed the New Jersey race in which Republican
moderate Chris Christie ousted Demcrat John Corzine, a close Obama
ally, but it doesn't seem like gay issues were much discussed
there, either.
In New York's 23rd congressional district, liberal,
pro-gay-marriage Republican Dede Scozzafava was challenged on the
right by Conservative Party nominee Doug Hoffman. She withdrew and
endorsed Democrat Bill Owens after tanking in pre-election polls.
Owens, a gay-marriage opponent like the president he supports, won.
If Scozzafava hadn't been so far to the left on economic issues
(her support for bigger government spending and union "card check"
fueled her rightwing opposition), it would have been a clearer test
of the GOP's willingness to support gay-marriage advocates in its
big tent. But we'll have to wait to see those contests.
More on Marriage. Columnist Steve Chapman seems
of a similar mind when he writes, in
Gay Marriage Lost, But It's Not Losing:
it's not the idea of treating gay couples equally that bothers
most Americans. It's the name of the legal arrangement. Call
same-sex marriage by another term...and they're fine with
it....
...you don't get across a broad river in a single leap. You get
there by building a bridge that allows you to travel across one
step at a time. As a destination, civil unions leave a lot to be
desired. But as an avenue, they're hard to beat.