The week ended for the Prop. 8 trial with Michael Lamb testifying
about how studies of children raised by same-sex couples show that
the kids are alright: No better and no worse than the kids raised
by heterosexual couples.
David H. Thompson had the job of
cross-examining Lamb, and I'll leave it to others to discuss
some obvious problems. But one thing Thompson kept harping on was
the contradictions of older studies -- some relying on data about
parenting from the 1950s and 60s -- with newer ones. Lamb began
his work in this field in the 1970s with some views that changed by
the 1990s, and Thompson refused to believe that the data had
changed, suggesting it was Lamb who had.
Any time the 1970s is mentioned, it should ring a bell in any
discussion of gay equality. That was a landmark decade, when 20
states
repealed their sodomy laws, joining lonely Illinois, which was
ahead of the pack back in 1961.
It is too easy to forget or underestimate this context; but it
is essential to understanding what is happening today in the
courtroom. Sodomy laws were the primary tool government had to
actually enforce the silence of the closet. They enshrined in law
the cultural misperceptions about homosexuality that pervaded the
culture at large. Growing up in this country in the 1960s, and
well into the 1970s, people who publicly identified themselves as
homosexual were subject to prosecution, fines and actual
imprisonment. There is simply no equivalent that heterosexuals had
to endure.
And criminal conviction is not the half of it. While the sodomy
laws, themselves, were seldom actually enforced, they provided the
foundation for police harassment and social ostracism. Again,
George Chauncey's testimony does an
exemplary job of exploring this. In the face of the existence of
such laws, and an almost universal social stigma, the act of coming
out was dangerous at worst, but foolhardy in even the best cases.
Yes, people knew of homosexuals then - as sexual deviants and
perverts and queers. The bravest and most far-thinking lesbians
and gay men came out in the 1950s and 60s, but they were literally
risking their lives, and certainly their freedom. However they
were viewed, it was not as mainstream.
So what kind of data about same-sex parenting would have been
available for the years when, in many states, sodomy was still a
crime? Obviously, pretty much nothing of value, at least if your
goal is to compare how the children of same-sex couples compare to
the children of opposite-sex couples. If a gay person wanted or
needed to stay in the closet (as the vast majority of lesbians and
gay men did), you certainly didn't set up housekeeping with a
same-sex partner and your children. The social obliviousness of
the time only went so far. Some people who came out had been
heterosexually married, and began fighting in the courts for
custody of their children, but that was an emotionally wracking
experience, particularly for the children. And it was not
common.
The 1986 Supreme Court decision in Bowers v. Hardwick
affirmed the right of states to criminalize homosexuals, and
inflamed the problem. Americans with a predisposition to believing
the existing set of prejudices were reinforced: It was entirely
acceptable to view homosexuals as criminals - the Supreme Court
said so.
But the cultural shift was already in place, and it was the
reaction to Bowers by homosexuals that was so important.
I know that it got me interested in politics and governance. More
important, it finally opened up the conversation about homosexual
equality which had been kept captive in the same closet with the
rest of us.
So I think it's fair to say that lesbians and gay men who began
coming out to themselves and their families in the 1970s and 80s,
and forming public relationships that in earlier times would have
only confirmed their criminal and/or deviate status, was itself a
revolution enough.
But as heterosexual couples were becoming comfortable with their
constitutional right to use birth control, and even not to have
children at all, homosexual couples began to see the possibility of
becoming parents, not just of children from a prior heterosexual
marriage one of them might have had, but of their own - whether
adopted or by use of the technologies that had been developed for
their similarly situated heterosexual counterparts.
It is amazing to me that data about the children of those
couples in the 1980s and 1990s is as favorable as it is, given that
those children were really the first generation of any size to have
grown up with parents of the same sex. I suppose that can be
attributed to the dedication of those couples to negotiate both the
bureaucratic maze that all parents must go through to adopt or
conceive a child with technological assistance, and also the
residue of prejudice against them, simply for being homosexual and
not ashamed of it. If you want a child that badly, it's a safe bet
the child will not lack for parental attention.
It was not until 2003 that the U.S. Supreme Court finally ruled
that sodomy laws are unconstitutional, and removed the primary
legal stigma against homosexuality once and for all. Nevertheless,
the social stigmas still remain, as we see again and again.
But now, the legal barriers to coming out are gone. People may
remain in the closet for their own reasons, but they don't need to
fear prosecution by the government.
And that will, itself, bring out even more same-sex couples, and
produce more children of same-sex couples. Those children
shouldn't need to bear the social stigma some people have against
their parents, but that is what some people insist on. That is
their right, but it is not to their credit.
Is it at all likely that the children of same-sex couples who
are growing up now will do worse than the generation that preceded
them? I think that's unlikely, but I'll leave that to the
academics who study such things.
But for legal purposes - for the purposes of the case now in
court - it is safe to assume that the data available to the court
about the effects of same-sex parenting on children will be the
worst-case scenario. Those parents were pioneers. From now on,
they'll just be parents.
***CORRECTION*** The original post identified the witness as
"Brian" Lamb, when in fact it was Dr. Michael Lamb. I've corrected
that in the post. I have no idea what Brian Lamb thinks of studies
about same-sex parenting skills, if anything.